You are everything I want - and I do not want that.

"You are everything I want—and I do not want that. I do not want my projections, merely. They are empty, brittle, sour.

I like sour, when it is a lemon.

I do not like sour, when it is a heart.

I do not want to fall for my projection of you—I will fall into your mirage and come up with desert dust in my mouth.

As Dr. Seuss says, love is love when it not what we dreamed of, but something better, weirder: because it is real."

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When Patches of flesh peeled off my feet

“I made it the mantra of those days; when I paused before yet another series of switchbacks or skidded down knee-jarring slopes, when patches of flesh peeled off my feet along with my socks, when I lay alone and lonely in my tent at night I asked, often out loud: Who is tougher than me?The answer was always the same, and even when I knew absolutely there was no way on this earth that it was true, I said it anyway: No one.”

~ Cheryl Strayed

Quit Social Media

Im so tired of hanging out with friends that just stare at their phones.
I feel like its dumbing people down, people are losing their sense of imagination and creativity.
Just staring at their phones for all the answers and entertainment.
How boring.

"I think people struggle with that now, being present in a time and place. There's a lot of talk about mindfulness now and that's about the ability to be present and not constantly affected by erroneous sources around you—that stimulus through a computer or through worries," James says. "It's about being fully present."

"You end up forming a perception of yourself based on other people's opinions; a perception outside your own self, which is a f--king mind f--k because you start perceiving yourself as something that you aren't," he says. To prevent those perceptions from shaping reality, he advises, "Read more. Read every time you go to bed, read in the day—because at least reading a book, you can't be distracted by anything else."

- Theo James's brilliant take on social media.

Get to know the stranger sitting next to you.

“And I like large parties. They’re so intimate. At small parties there isn’t any privacy." - The Great Gatsby

Thoughts and things

"[With age]— there comes this wonderful self-knowledge. You're not trying to be somebody else, or do something else with your life. You think: Here I am. I've gone through this, I've survived that, and I know who I am now. There's still the part of me that wants to leap at every opportunity, but now there's the other side that says, 'Let's just wait a minute and see what happens.' That's intuition, and it comes with age and experience. I'm grateful for that, for knowing that I don't have to put my heart out there all the time and can just listen to that inner voice." —Kim Cattrall,

"With age, I am able to appreciate the beauty in small things more than when I was younger perhaps because I pay attention more. I feel myself becoming part of everything, as if I bleed into other people's joy and pain." —Jane Fonda 

<3 Emilyybones

Whatever makes you feel sexy—do that.

Objectification is Detachment

“Objectification – An attitude in which women are objects rated by size, shape and harmony of body parts: sexual fantasy leads to emotional unavailability and dissatisfaction.”

Roger Weiss’ Photographs

Being a single woman, has given me a lot more time and heighten perception into the world of talking to strangers, flirting, dating, etc. And one of the major issues that has mostly kept me comfortable in my single woman solitude, is the instillment of objectification I find in the majority of men. Until you can see past my female beauty or see it more than just a sexual challenge, and see my more intriguing soul, I have no interest in inviting you into my awesome party-of-one boat.

Objectification is detachment. It is seeing a person as a thing, rather than a who. It is looking at someone in terms of how they can satisfy your own personal needs, rather than seeing a mutual interaction of pleasure from both sides on an intimate level.

Now some girls have learned to strive for this objectification attention. And maybe that is why men continue to do it, because women have adapted and have started playing along? I think for women, it gives them some sort of fulfillment in knowing they are sexually attractive, but in the end it leaves them feeling lonely and empty, because there is no emotional interaction in thinking someone 'is hot'. All women should know they are all attractive (even though media tries to convince them otherwise to sell products).Women were created to be and are the most beautiful gender of the human species. Don't let your knowledge of your beauty rely on an opinion of a man. Your beauty is a factual, unbreakable statue of truth.

But, why do men do it and think its acceptable?

A mans reaction on why men objectify women:

"“I objectify women cause it’s “safer”. I receive an immediate gratification, a thrill if you will, albeit superficial, it does keep me safe at least for a time, (and I will jump in with Richard here) from annihilation — from a treacherous road of intimacy and vulnerability — the risk of being really seen and connected with– or actually rejected!! Yes, that’s it — it’s an avoidance of rejection… Intimacy takes a lot of work, courage and commitment. Objectifying is an “easy” road out of the potential of rejections — at least for the moment. A slice of breathing room if you will, though illusory and ultimately unfulfilling and painful — it’s still or at least has been a strange sort of unconscious haven for me…” –R. Link

Also, Russel Brand pretty much nailed this whole subject in this video:

Vagina this. Vagina That.

-The Great Wall of Vagina

 
“Do you say that tree isn't pretty cause it doesn't look like that tree? We're all trees. You're a tree. I'm a tree. You've got to love your body, Eve. You've got to love your tree. Love your tree. (Leah)” 
― Eve Ensler, The Good Body





With all of the beauty magazines, constant marketing, and media getting slammed down your self esteem throat, it saddens me of this perception of beauty and this idea of what you should look like to feel beautiful and comfortable with yourself. Not to mention the constant comparisons women do to themselves on a daily basis with their social media feeds.
I would be lying if I said that I have never been affected by it all, and that I have never nit picked little things about myself that I deemed unfit for the 'attractive' label.
Getting to the point now as to why I'm writing this post, I recently came across this interesting documentary The Perfect Vagina. I highly recommend both men and women watch it. To understand to women, that all vaginas and bodies are 'normal' and more importantly BEAUTIFUL. And to men, that things you see in porn, is not the average woman, by any means, and to stop comparing beautiful girls, to an unrealistic robot image.
Now, Im just gonna leave you with beautiful vagina art to get the point across.

P.S. Your other parts are beautiful too.
You silly beautiful people.

Inspiration

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